You’re very beautiful to be a dark-skinned girl, they say. Umm….What does that mean exactly?! Why can’t I just be a pretty or beautiful woman?
I’m sure I am not the only person of my same complexion that has heard this statement before. Now, I’m not going to lie as a younger woman (high school age maybe) I accepted this as a compliment. Why might you ask? Well, let me explain… In my teens, I never felt that I was pretty or beautiful being that I was dark skin. I would look in the mirror and would never see a beautiful being standing in front of me. I was very insecure of my looks, more specifically the color of my skin. I always felt like the outcast or odd ball when it came to others including my own family. When I did hear that I was pretty it was always ” you’re pretty to be dark skinned”. Then, I accepted as close to a compliment as I could get. Thank GOD for growing up, lol!!
Now, we are in the present day and I must say that I have grown a lot over the years. I no longer just accept “you’re pretty to be dark skin” as a compliment. I no longer say “thank you” to that statement. If I did, I would feel that I agreeing that I’m ONLY beautiful because of the color of my skin but I KNOW BETTER THAN THAT!
There are so many things about me that make me more than just beautiful because of the color of my skin. I may have bummy days, who doesn’t? I prefer to walk around in sweatpants or tights, tanks/t-shirt, and my Adidas flip flops. Oh, I can’t forget my over sized hoodie if the weather permits :). I don’t wear makeup everyday and when I do it very minimal. Even on those days, I still consider myself beautiful. Why, because I know who I am underneath all those layers. I still have a great heart, a great personality, and have grown very confident in myself. Not to mention, I find myself attractive regardless of what I’m wearing and who tells me otherwise. Now make no mistake, I am NOT perfect by any means. I have my flaws just like everyone else. Yes, I’ve gained weight over the years but who hasn’t. I may have blemishes on my face & stretch marks on my body but who doesn’t! Even with all of that I still feel that I am beautiful and as long as I believe that, that is all that matters.
With all that being said, although it might have taken me a little while to realize it but I have grown to love myself and everything about me even on my bad days. So to my ladies that may just have a little more melanin in their skin than the next person, remember you are not beautiful ONLY because you are dark skin. You are a beautiful person as a whole! Raise your head high and be proud of the skin you’re in. You got that Melanin Magic ❤
To ALL girls (African American, Caucasian, Indian and everything in between),
You are beautiful not matter what you think of your reflection! Wear your crown with PRIDE.
Question to readers: What was an insecurity that you overcame or what is an insecurity that you struggle with currently?
Until next read loves ❤